Cool & Calm
Celebrities in top positions in any field are certainly under a lot of stress. Yet rarely do they exhibit telltale signs. Why is that?
Being ‘under stress’ is having external stress, such as work or home-related responsibilities. The way you feel inside is internal stress. Not allowing external stress to invade your precious inner well-being is the way to control internal stress.It is possible to acquire steady, cool & calm composure, irrespective of the external stressors.
Important: Our approach is not to mask internal stress but to manage and even eliminate it. Would you like to discover how . . .To stay cool & calm under fire? To succeed in managing chronic stress for good? You can accomplish this with Anger Management.
In this post, you will learn:
• What is Anger Management?
• What are the common obstacles to successful Anger Management?
• How can you make Anger Management work in your life?
Anger Management is . . .The process of controlling the way you react to common stressors present in everyday life. It is an active and continuous practice and can become a natural part of your personality. The main objective of Anger Management is . . . To revamp your thought patterns and lifestyle progressively, so you will no longer suffer from chronic, toxic stress on a daily basis. Like other major endeavors, Anger Management is not without its challenges. That’s why it’s important to prepare yourself adequately for this important commitment. If you don’t, you’re going to end up being disappointed with the results. Please don’t let that happen to you. Now, don’t worry. We’ve isolated the common barriers to success and the most effective ways for you to dissolve them. Just follow along and you are on your way to freer, happier, more productive experience both in your workplace and at home.
By the way, Anger Management is an art. It’s the result of your own self-reflection and honest self-expression. That makes it unique to you. But there are very practical tips that ensure your success.
Do these three things to succeed with Anger Management . . .
Here are some Expert Tips to help obliterate the obstacles to consistently successful AngerManagement:
#1 Cool & Calm Strategy: Record Your Stressors
Each person has his own set of stressors, unique to him, whether in the workplace or at home: situations, actions, events, objects, people, tasks, chores, task-related obligations, or general circumstances. Awareness of your stressors is your first step to personalizing your Anger Management. You need to the cause to get to the cure.
To make things more organized and manageable, I would advise you to create a AngerManagement journal. You can call it your Cool and Calm Stress Management Journal, just to remind yourself of your goal.
What does an Anger Management journal look like?
One part of your journal should be separate and devoted specifically to recording stressors. Each page should have three columns with the following Headings:
Time/Date, Stressor, Stress level (1-10)
Evaluating your stress level is of paramount importance. Rate yourself like this:
“1” if you are only mildly annoyed for a brief period of time.
“10” if you experience not only mental signs but also physical signs of stress, such as a racing heart rate, jittery stomach, or cold hands and feet.
Is it challenging to maintain an Anger Management journal?
Bear in mind: Your Anger Management journal should not be difficult to maintain. The journal is your own special, personal reflection.
Hey, it’s free, it’s natural, and it’s private.
If your practice of recording and journaling stresses you out, it’s possible you’re just overdoing it. Try to relax, stay cool and calm, and objectively review your actions.
Now, you don’t have to record every little stressor that comes your way – just the ones you remember at the end of the day. You know, the little gremlins that tend to impact your well-being.
How often and when?
Once a day. Some people write in their journals every few hours. However, if you’re like most people, you’re probably unable to do this. That’s okay.
Write only when it’s convenient for you. You are not in competition with anyone on this.
Just be sure you write in your Anger Management journal every day. This way, you will be consistently successful with Anger Management.
#2 Cool & Calm Strategy: Acknowledge Your Personal Beliefs & Values
The battle against stress will be much easier if you come to terms with your personal beliefs and value system. Many of us unconsciously harbor negative beliefs and old values that really do not support our current goals. We didn’t consciously put them there but we can consciously change them for the better. Below are common beliefs and values that can directly impair your ability to manage stress. Check these out and see if you identify with any of them.
1. “I have more important things to do than manage stress”
2. “Anger Management won’t bring food to the table, my work does”
3. “I have no time left for this sort of thing”
4. “I’d rather sleep than try to manage stress”
5. “I’m a hopeless case!”
6. “I’m not very good at learning new things”
7. “How will I know if this will work?”
8. “Anger Management is just not ‘my thing’”
9. “I think it’s tedious and boring”
10. “I don’t have the energy to think about it”
Try to let go of any negative belief.
Open the door to welcome relief.
Remind yourself: Life works better on the positive side. Image?
#3 Cool & Calm Strategy: Take Action — the First Baby Steps
Lastly, Anger Management isn’t just a vague concept – it’s a set of special, practical skills. Practice it and you will be able to avoid or moderate your stress response. Long-term benefits: You will be healthier, happier and more productive.
How long will it take to master Anger Management? You know, Anger Management has spawned a whole industry of mentors and coaches. Why? Because it’s not something one learns overnight. The habit of stress, and it is a habit, can be a stubborn companion to a way of thinking. If you would like to understand how stress is actually a habit, get instant access to my FREE ebook, Stress Relief for Professionals. The important thing is that you absolutely can change a habit. With this in mind, it logically follows that you must truly want to take control and manage your stress for a healthier mind, body, and experience of life.
You will see results if you begin and maintain consistency. Take the first few baby steps.
Managing chronic stress does not require a lot of time in daily practice.
You can accomplish a lot within a 20-30 minute timeframe.
If 20 minutes sounds overwhelming, just chunk it down. Try limiting your anger management sessions to 10-15 minutes. This should give you enough time to think about the stressors you encountered for the day and the way you reacted to them.
Consistency is more important than the amount of time.
Just be sure you focus on your personal stressors and let go of any negative blocks that we mentioned in Step 2.
Self-analysis is your most important tool in managing stress
Remember: You must be honest with yourself. If you want to remain truly cool and calm, and not just mask your inner stress, you must be true to yourself.
Make it a point to identify harmful thoughts and behaviors so you can modify them. Be like a third person, an alter ego, your other self, catching and correcting you. Avoid justifying any habitual, negative responses to stressors as this will just offset your personal breakthroughs. Behavioral modification is gradual but very real. To enjoy results, you must be consistent in detecting the stressors and your responses. Then begin enforcing a new, more positive replacement behavior.
Oh, yes, I almost forgot: Be sure to reward yourself when you succeed in replacing a behavior. You deserve it!
Your first 3 steps to starting your Anger Management:
• Awareness of your stressors — reflect
• Acknowledgment of your negative personal beliefs – be honest with yourself
• Action – put your plan into practice